Tuesday, September 04, 2007

closer

I still have a whole other post swirling around in my now wine addled brain but that will wait for another day because I am too tired to do it justice. The tiredness comes from hours of talking, five or six hours of talking with people who have been living two doors down for years and yet we'd never taken the time.

I invited them and another couple over with the thought of connecting the latter with the former, relatively new moms the both of them but the latter is struggling with the newness and I can't help but see my reflection in her tired, overwhelmed eyes. Everyone had a great time, good food and drink and much merry and the two of them hit it off famously.

As everyone left we made plans for the next time and then we sat alone on our porch I told J that I had wanted them to meet but I also needed this for me. I need to know there are people close by and in 3-D and while I didn't know how it would go it had gone better than I'd hoped. Connections are elusive, they are either there or not and you can't force it and it's got to feel right so when it's good it's really, really good.

Jenn wrote a post recently called There's a girl that was written in a ethereal, haunting almost Milne sort of language that left me wanting for more. It summed up her own bit of perfection and as such I share it with you. You can find more over at suburban turmoil and petroville.

And don't forget to email me your Just Post nods before Friday at girlplustwo(at)yahoodotcom. If this is new to you read the going global post a bit farther down the page or one of the Just Post buttons on the right.

36 comments:

deb said...

Sounds like a nice evening and you're right, we need friends close by as well.

jennifer said...

Good for you. I'm famously bad at that (making friends), and consider it to be one of my biggest faults.

Christine said...

sounds like a wonderful, 3D time. at least you didn't have to wear those green and red glasses.
;-p

Jenn said...

You're so amazing.

Mentally, I'm walking down your hall, wine glasses in hand, about to knock on your door.

Thanks for the nod; coming from you, it's so deeply appreciated that I can't express myself in words.

Magpie said...

I need to do that, invite the neighbors in. It's an important piece of community. Sounds like you had a nice time.

Her Grace said...

Good for you. It's hard to take that step, isn't it? We're friendly with our neighbors and have them over for birthday parties, but have never sat down to have a beer or wine with them. Strange.

QT said...

YAY! I am so happy that it all worked out, and that you got the necessary jolt out of it, friend. Here's to many more nights like last night....

Orangeblossoms said...

I think we live in this increasingly isolated/isolating world. It is so hard to make those connections, to take the risk, to make the time. Yet, it is essential. Absolutely essential. One of the things that I love most about church is that it is one of the few places where making community (preferably unpretentious, authentic community) is totally acceptable.... totally right.... and totally real. In the ideal world it is a place where every person is welcomed and where every life circumstance is taken seriously. It is also a place to let your hair down a little and play..... Sadly, like everywhere else, those ideals are elusive, at best. But, as a pastor, I hold those values up to my congregation and invite us to try. Without those connections, I believe that our ability to serve others is truly limited.

Tabba said...

yes....exactly...

I've found that I've been leaning on my 3-D friends a lot lately. I've needed that input.
I need to know that it is out there.

slouching mom said...

i'm so glad you took that first step.

really, i am.

painted maypole said...

so glad your gathering went well!

crazymumma said...

That post by Jenn was astounding wasn't it?

I'm glad you had a good night. But still that twinge of envy that I could not have been part of the fun.

Ah well, Belize awaits...

Lawyer Mama said...

I'm glad it went well. That first step is so hard.

I nominated Jenn's Girl post too. It was so amazing, I just can't stop thinking about it.

Janet said...

Raising a glass, over here, to 3-D connections. It's a glass of water, though. Dude, it's only 2:20 p.m. where I live! I still have children to pick up from school.

Aliki2006 said...

I"m glad the first step worked out, too.

And thanks for pointing that amazing post in our (my) direction. I had never stopped by her blog before and her post will haunt me, too.

Amy York said...

What a beautiful thing you did ~ bringing friends together and letting everyone connect. Sounds like a lovely time was had by all!

Jennifer said...

Not only "a success" but, maybe, the beginning of something real and something good. How wonderful!

And thank you for the link to Jenn's beautiful post -- it is haunting.

flutter said...

that is an absolutely gorgeous choice

Kyla said...

Sounds wonderful. And I am jealous!

meno said...

I'm glad you took that step of inviting them over. That sounds so like you.

I think you made all of your lives just a bit better.

mitzh said...

Glad you had a perfect evening...

metro mama said...

I'm so glad you had a good time.

Beck said...

That New Friend feeling is great - I'm glad you had a nice evening.

Mrs. Chicky said...

Can you come over here and play matchmaker for me?

KC said...

Perfection all around. Neighbor connections can feel so grounding.

mamatulip said...

I'm so glad you had a night like that; it sounds like it was much needed. I hope all's well in your corner of the Earth.

liv said...

oh, wine-addled. I haven't had that pleasure in quite a while.... jealous!

AmandaD said...

Let us toast friendship, in person and through screens, because we each, so dearly need it.

Momish said...

Good choice! I agree, it is heart warming to know there are live people very close by.

bgirl said...

it is soooo great that you connected with them, for them and for you.

raising a glass to you.

Jocelyn said...

What strikes me most about your evening is that you're showing investment in where you are NOW. I think if I were planning a move and a big change of life, I might slight some of the chances right in front of me.

Well done, Jen.

carrie said...

I'm so glad your real life community, the ones you physically need in the most unfortunate of circumstances and the good ones too, is shaping up! It's about time, huh? Thank goodness for good neighbors.

I'm glad you found yours.

Ruth Dynamite said...

Connection - so lacking these days. I've made excuses for too long about inviting the neighbors over. You've inspired me, as usual, to reach out.

Wayfarer Scientista said...

Oh - I'm so glad it not only went better then you expected but went well! A toast to you.

Susanne said...

Your sentence about connections being either there or not hit me full center. And what a marvel when they are there.

Ally said...

Well done, you. Getting people together, making connections with your neighbors. Good work.