Thursday, September 20, 2007

the rope ends here

I am freakishly overwhelmed and teary right now and as such am unable to enjoy the usual door knocking over your way(s). My google reader is growing so full it might pop from the weight of the words I can't get to and there is definitely an obsessive trait deep inside me that can't stomach watching it balloon to so many unread posts.

But a girl's only got so much time and I hope to be back around soon enough. In the meantime, do me a favor and tell me something nice about our world. Sometimes I forget all the good stuff.


Joker The Lurcher said...

when it gets like that you need to click on 'mark all as read' and start again. and keep doing that until you have time to enjoy it. the whole point of this stuff is to make us happy, not do our heads in. no-one will mind if you don't pop by for a while. thinking of you and big hugs from damp old england.

Mrs. Chicken said...

Delete all the unread items. You won't miss anything.

My mom is here for a visit and my girl is loving on her hard. See? Babies and grammas. Those are very nice things about our world, indeed.

take care of you.

alejna said...

Fall has already started here in New England, and that's a pretty nice thing. I love the smell of the fresh air early on a chilly morning and the sound of leaves blowing across a sidewalk. Not to mention the colors. The late afternoon is particularly nice, with the sun lowering on the horizon, and making the trees glow with all their yellows, oranges and reds.

Feel free to skip my recent post. It's just more piraty talk stuff. Here's a summary: Arrrr.

Julie Pippert said...

I started a topic about what matters and how we are valuable and like the most awesome bloggers wrote the most moving things. One guy stayed with his mom to help her recover from surgery. One lady intervened to help an overwhelmed wife caring for a terminal husband. Another woman helped an elderly woman attacked by a mugger. One person asked everyone to spend the day saying nice things. And on and on.

Big (HUGS) to you. Take care. I mean that.

Using My Words

kiki said...

mark all as read and keep clicking that button until you're feeling underwhelmed.
the weather is gloriously fall-like here and i'm thinking about my weekend plans.
know that we'll all be here when you are feeling less overwhelmed and know honey, that if you need a place to empty the well so you can free your mind a little, i'm here. xo

Kyla said...

You take your time, friend. Take all you need.

Something nice:

When BubTar's class discussed community helpers, he told his teacher he wanted to be a babysitter, because he is SO good at helping with his little sister. She told me in the parent teacher conference and said that he is always talking about KayTar and how much he loves her. And my heart about burst, because I worry so about how things affect him.

Love, friend. It is out there, and it is beautiful.

Denguy said...

I walked up to a woman at the playground today who didn't seem to know anyone. I introduced Boyo and myself. "I'm a stay-at-home dad," I announced. We talked while the kids played and she was genuinely giddy.
There are nice people in the world.

PunditMom said...

I hear you. I deleted 80+ posts from my reader today! :O Something good? George Bush can never again be elected President of the United States. Also, eat Edy's Slow Churned French Silk Ice Cream -- it's heaven!

Her Grace said...

I'm with everyone else...mark as read, then start over again. I'm sorry you're overwhelmed. Let's see, yesterday at the farmer's market, my kids were looking over the cookies, and a very elderly farmer leaned over and said teasingly, "Now girls, even Cookie Monster has traded in his cookies for vegetables." I loved that he knew that. I also love that he was gentle enough that they felt ok buying the cookies AND the vegetables.

thordora said...

I clean out the reader weekly. Don't feel bad about it.

Things that are good....

Tasty Pinot Grigio

The tomatoes from my garden that are now ripe

Frosted French Mint Ice Cream

My youngest daughter's laugh

Regina Spektor

The work of Robyn Sarah

Daniel Craig in tight short

I could go on.

It's easy to absorb the hurt and the pain, but equally easy to get wrapped up and giddy in the good things. I send you good things.

painted maypole said...

the hugs of young children are quite good. And the best thing about a hug? everytime (ok, most times, sometimes your child tries to break free) you give one, you get one back!! (guess what I talked about in preschool yesterday!!)

virtual hug coming now....

painted maypole said...

oh. and one more good thing is this world?


Beck said...

Oh, nice things! Okay, this poem by Wendell Berry should do it:
The Peace of Wild Things

When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.

Gwen said...

I second Daniel Craig in tight shorts. Or even Daniel Craig in no shorts.

But maybe that wasn't the kind of love you were going for.


flutter said...

something nice about the world?

You're in it.

mamatulip said...

Something nice about my world?

I'm reading your blog right now.


Survivor starts tonight. I'm stoked.


I'm seeing the Beastie Boys tomorrow night.

Stoked more.

Karen said...

well, this is a personal thing, but one of my best friends in the world was just able to adopt one of the most lovely little baby/toddler girls I have ever seen - and apparently, this dream child has a quick temper and has been ruling the roost all the way home from Calcutta to Rhode Island at age 10mo, though her brothers are 5 and 9 - ha! It's picture perfect; she's a rock star and she knows it!

thailandchani said...

Simple kindnesses... the ones that occur on a daily basis in often mundane circumstances.



Anjali said...

Something good about the world?

The change of seasons. It's Mother Nature at her most wondrous.

Marymurtz said...

Something good about the world?


The way my daughter still pronounces yellow as "lellow."

Listening to music with your eyes closed.

Leaves turning colors in the fall.

Watching a playground full of pre-schoolers.

And knowing people like you are in the world.

It will get better--you need to do like everyone says and mark all as read. And not just on your blog feed. Sometimes you need to do that with worries, too.

Hugs to you,

Mad Hatter said...

Step back. Breathe. Allow yourself to be.

jen said...

i love you guys.

Oh, The Joys said...

I'm thinking I might have to abandon Google reader. Mine's said "1,000+" for weeks. There's no way. NO. WAY.

It's making me hate blogging. I want to kick my blog. In the shin.

Pgoodness said...

Let's the top of my head...
- The cool breeze blowing through the house
- the promise of crisp, autumn leaves and fresh apples soon
- the way my little one says AGAIN when I tickle him
- your little plot of land in a land far away
- seeing a gazillion stars in the sky
- good comedy
- the promise of something better next November
- all the people that you have touched on this earth
- a good drink
- the sound of laughter from little ones
- fresh strawberries and cool whip - Mother Nature and mass production at its finest
- big, squishy hugs

cce said...

I so understand the feeling of being unable to get to the blog and the blog audience. Thus my summer long sabbatical. Take time off, you'll return with purpose and new energy.
Something good about the world...
homemade cinnamon donuts (can you tell I'm hungry?)

FENICLE said...

Eh, wax on, wax off. Wax on. Wax off.

liv said...

I agree. Mark all as read. This will make you smile: There is a cool breeze blowing in GA and slowly it is changing into Autumn. The jungle yard is ripe for exploring, and secret hiding places are being found by small children. There's a barely audible babble in the water of the creek, and snapping turtles can be seen from the bridge. Come on down, love.

Anonymous said...

Well...Flutter said the first thing that came to mind. People like you are everywhere in the world, and that's a pretty awesome thing.

I don't use google reader and I'm thinking that's not such a bad thing.

slouching mom said...

I agree with everyone else. Ditch them and start again, but only when you're ready.

Something good:

dulce de leche ice cream

Mayberry said...

I have a lot of questions and doubts about religion but this past weekend I witnessed two baptisms. Seeing the priest march down the aisle with a baby cradled in each arm and a beaming smile on his face almost made my heart burst with joy.

mitzh said...

Click all and delete all, then start over.

The good things in this world can be seen in a child's eyes. And that what makes them a true blessing.

Have a nice day, Jen!

Janet said...

A story of random kindness, for my bloggy friend Jen:

My husband was in line waiting to buy coffee at Tim Hortons (a Canadian reference; like Dunkin' Donuts, but with good coffee!) He ordered, held out his money and the woman taking his order said, "That's okay, the person in front paid for your coffee."

He's certain he didn't know who the person in front was. I think she was just paying it forward.

QT said...

I agree, mark them all as read, honey.

A woman at my work place brought her newly adopted Guatemalan baby to work today, and she smiled. For the first time. At ME!!!

Take care of yourself, sweets.

Sandra said...

Oh how I get this ... as I drown in my own google reader after weeks of licking my wounds and burying my head in the sand.

I can think of something nice about our world ... you and your hottness.

Take care of you.

Kevin said...

Compost happens.

urban-urchin said...

nice is I am watching daniel craig in 'casino royale' right now. he is purty. and it's a beautiful night the crickets and cicadas are chirping.

There are mama's like you with babies like M in my life and that is really really nice.

Mr. Beer N. Hockey said...

Experience a good thing about this world: if you do not have it get a copy of the Sex Pistols' "Anarchy in the U.K." and watch your kid dance to it. Don't forget to turn it up a little. You can do it in a park but you better hurry because winter, the best time of them all, is on the way. God save the Queen.

bgirl said...

just tonight after my last goodnight kiss with the little dude, i started plotting, negotiating with that wicked ruler 'time'. how can i get more? if i do this, then this, then can i have more? no that won't work, how about this, then that and a little of this..will that give me more????


good things...
-ice cream in the fall
-old friends
-breakfast for dinner
-the way i look at things after i read your posts
-holding hands
-live music
-honey crisp apples - the best

rest easy. pause. breathe.

best wishes to you.

Deezee said...

You and I are walking hand in hand. (I still have thoughts about a previous post of yours I never succeeded in commenting on due to new work schedule coupled wtih parenting a child largely by cell phone. ouch.)

may we both climb up the rope together...

theflyingmum said...

Love ya, kiddo!

carrie said...

Just put it behind you. No biggie.

In the good news category:

My niece lost her 1st tooth!
My puppy doesn't need another vaccination!
I made crepes for dinner and the kids liked them!
It was sunny today!

And, you'll be okay. I know you will.

Christine said...

something good: warm tortillas with butter


Bon said...

well, that poem that Beck left really made MY day....

i also want to add fall sunshine, with that tinge of crispness in it, to the list...and the way my boy (sick) snuggled his head into the curve of my shoulder this morning and stayed there, for a loooong time.

that and the simple kindnesses Chani mentioned. the car that stopped to let me and O cross the street. the smile the old lady and i exchanged on the street yesterday.

rest now.

Nancy said...

The blog world has seemed overwhelming lately. I don't know what it is.

Take care of yourself.

Anonymous said...

I was getting out warm clothes (the first cold day and I freaked! Now it's back to 80 degrees. Anyway...) and came across a bumblebee halloween costume. Lorenzo grabbed it and wanted it on! (Last year, he was afraid of it. Wow.) He ran after Fiona, "Bzz Bzz Bzz." So cute, but then! She put on her flower fairy costume and they played together. Together. Playing. It was like a miracle. There is hope for peace on earth! (sorry, I have a hard time being earnest sometimes and end up tongue-in-cheek.)

Today is the equinox. The wheel keeps turning. There are bigger things than us.

You are loved, far and wide.

kaliroz said...

Here's something good about our world, Jen.

While it's currently a piss-hole; it is the same place that birthed Botticelli and Mozart and Chagall and Modigliani and Van Gogh and James Taylor and Buddha and Jesus and Mussorgsky and I could go on.

The world eats itself over and over again. But, in doing so, births beauty.

There is good in this existence. If we hold it within ourselves and don't let the evil others do corrupt us and destroy our sense of hope.

And ignore your google reader. Go have a coffee and sit outside.

Lawyer Mama said...

Just mark all posts as read & move on! ((HUGS))

I hope this will make you smile. This morning as I was walking out the door, Holden gave me a big kiss and said, for the first time, "I love you, Mommy." "I love you" is something that's definitely right with this crazy world of ours.

meno said...

Embrace the freedom inherent in the "Mark All as Read" button.


Z said...

48 people have already left comments and they all want to make you happy. That's pretty good in itself.

The world is beautiful and it's all the better because we are in it (you and all your friends). Give time to yourself (surely you've got two minutes?), because you are absolutely gorgeous and deserve it.

The Atavist said...

The sun is shining, at least here where I am. Grass is green. Skies are blue. Most people overlook their differences and make it through another day without killing each other. All good things. And it seems that a lot of people care about you when you are 'overwhelmed and teary.' I suspect that they care about you the rest of the time as well. That too, is good.

Magpie said...

It's a beautiful day, so nice that we'll get to go to the beach with Granny tomorrow. And that will be a beautiful thing.

And yeah, just click all read. It's like deleting everything in your in-box.

Jennifer said...

The warm breeze blowing through the green trees in my yard right now and the delicious smell of my neighbor cutting her lawn. Good. Very good.

Karen Forest said...

Something nice about this world?

hmmmm, let me think.

Oh yeah, I've got it:

Jen, have you looked in the mirror lately? The answer is staring back at you.

Orangeblossoms said...

nice things:
strong women
heartfelt sentiments
gentle rain
fresh cut grass
homemade cookies
autumn leaves
Eva Cassady's music
Harry Potter
honking geese

Mrs. Chicky said...

Puppies are good.

So is ice cream. Any flavor you like.

I'm a big fan of hugs from a toddler. Hugs in general actually. Hugs are good.

And you. You are good. Need a hug?

Tabba said...

how about that you are in it.
that we "met" - that you've "met" all of us (some in person, some just out here in blogland).
That you've touched some of us in such profound ways that we are trying to pick up where you leave off.....we're trying to make ourselves worthy.
we're just trying.
and we're hoping.

peace, love, and calm to you, lovey.

KC said...

Are you okay? Take care of yourself and your family first- blogging and keeping up with the community should never be a burden -only to help and support, not weigh down in unread post weight.

Good things? Glamour shots still is in business so....maybe a photoshoot with feathers is what you need.


Anonymous said...

Something nice, hmmm. The sound of your little girl laughing, playing peek a boo with a baby, a hug from someone you love.

The Expatriate Chef said...

Something nice about the world: you.
Your posts make me remember that there are amazing people working hard to make our world a better place. You are my go-to for a bit of hope. Feel better soon.

Momish said...

jen, I know the feeling. I too suffer from the panic of watching that unread count mount higher and higher. You just gotta turn it off. On more than one occassion, I have done the "mark-all-as-read" thing to end the madness.

A good thing about the world? Doughnuts. Doughnuts are good.

Persephone said...

Hope you're feeling better. I just wanted to send you this link because it's sob-worthy and inspiring and absolutely wonderful. Sometimes, amazing things come from unexpected sources.

Big hug,

crazymumma said...

The world is full of a crazy kind of beauty. And I am so sorry you feel so overwhelmed and tearful. Happens to the best and strongest of us.


Today littlegirl and I visited a store in the hood that was having a rescue animal adoption day.

The tummy of a puppy, and the flop of her paws as she slept in someones lap was beautiful

The lick I got on my hand from another. Stunning.

Amy York said...

Hang in there ~ we'll be anxiously awaiting your return.
Something good... no matter how bad the day is, you can go to sleep each night knowing that you have a fresh new start the next morning. You can do with that day what you wish ~ almost like a do~over.

The Chick said...

Here's something cute if you want to hear it: My 5 year old son with autism, who is barely verbal, sits in the back of my car singing "I Believe When I Fall in Love" by Stevie Wonder. This is one of the reasons I love being his mom. Love you, Jenn!

Ally said...

Don't worry friend! Just delete those unread items and start fresh. None of us will mind.

Happy thoughts your way.

Susanne said...

I wondered when you'd get to the point where it is to much. Everywhere I went I saw your nice and thoughtful comments.

Like the others said, just click "mark all read".

I don't have anything especially beautiful to share but then the mere fact that there are dozens of comments before mine might be beautiful enough.

(And as you can see I'm once again speed-reading my ways through a week of posts.)

Rock the Cradle said...

The sky. With or without clouds (I like with).

The smell of sunlight on cement.

Early morning shadows.

Feeling yourself breathe. And move.

Your hands.

The relief of a good cry. Or scream.

ewe are here said...

Something nice that always, always, always makes me feel better about the world: watching my child(ren) laugh and laugh and laugh. Never fails.