Tuesday, March 13, 2007

strategic planning

M is sick. Not horrendously so, but just enough not to qualify for daycare. It's complicated when you have two working parents and no back up options. When both parents have critical work issues and neither can easily take a day off.

It becomes a negotiation. Hashing out who has what on their plate and who can let what go. I lost today, but I mostly lost because I simply cannot miss work tomorrow, and tomorrow might look very much like today. J's outlook was worse today, and a bit easier tomorrow. Negotiation complete.

My child's health is far and away the most important thing. But it's amazing how complicated all of it gets.

I am still working on the post to answer some questions generated from the last post. This too, has been derailed by illness. But I am working on it regardless. I am anticipating a long and difficult day after a long and difficult night.

I sound like such a whiner. Ugh.

27 comments:

wordgirl said...

Not a whiner...just expressing what it means to stay home with another person who is physically uncomfortable.

Mad Hatter said...

Whine, whine, whine. That's all you ever do. Yep, Jen is known throughout the blogosphere as a colossal whiner.

Can I interest you in some swamp land in Florida?

Hope M is feeling better soon and that work goes smoothly tomorrow.

slouching mom said...

It's not the caretaking of a sick kid as much as the unpredictability of it. If we knew in advance when kids would fall ill, we could plan for it. I think the same goes for snow days.

Susanne said...

No, definietely not whining. I find these sick days exhausting enough with a back-up stand-by babysitter. I can't imagine how it is when you have to deal on your own. And it hits unexpected, it is very tiring, and then you oogle your child all day long. (Will she be well enough for daycare tomorrow? Will it make things worse? Will it be better to keep her home for another day?) And that on top of the sleep deprivation and the subsequent illness of the parent who always catches the same bug only a little later. And who then has to go work nonetheless.

Hope she is well soon.

J Fife said...

Funny. Actually, not funny at all. We're living a very similar scene here at our house.

Hope M gets better soon.

Tabba said...

You know what you sound like?
A mom with a sick little girl.

Take care of that little M...and yourself. I hope she's feeling better soon.

kgirl said...

poor m, hope she's ok soon.

this is such a tough one, isn't it? we go through it too. i can't imagine what a single parent does.

metro mama said...

I hope M is better soon!

Anjali said...

Hope M feels better and that you catch up on some rest!

NotSoSage said...

Ah yes, a very familiar scene. We've done exactly that. "Well, I definitely have to be at work tomorrow, so I'll stay home today." And then you catch it.

I hope M feels better and keep yourself healthy, too.

Deezee said...

You don't sound like a whiner but like a parent with a full plate!

Oh, The Joys said...

God that is SO familiar. Add that I am a consultant (read - with a more FLEXIBLE schedule) and it gets further complicated.

Thailand Gal said...

Not whining.. just expressing frustration. That's an okay thing to do. :) Quite understandable.


Peace,

~Chani

Momish said...

This is me and my husband to a tee! Since I recently got a new job, he has been losing every time. But, that only makes me live with the make-up guilt. No win! Hope M feels better soon...

Mrs. Chicken said...

Echoing the rest - not a whiner. A mom with a lot of plates in the air and lots of folks to care for, some at home and some not.

Hope your baby is better soon and that your stress eases.

Peace.

Carrie said...

A really tough situation you got there. It will probably affect either one's job in the long run.
Hope M feels better soon.

meno said...

Whining appears essential to being human. Feel free to be human. Just because other folks might have it worse doesn't mean it's not hard.

I remember those negotiating days. Each of us trying to convince the other that they HAVE to go to work or the universe will collapse

Lucia said...

There's negotiations no matter what's happening in life. If it weren't M being sick, it might be the stove being broken.

Hope she'll feel better soon (for her sake and for her parents).

QT said...

I agree with meno - just because it isn't the most catastrophic thing doesn't make it any easier.

Try to rest so you don't get it, and get that little one better, ya hear? Love you.

carrie said...

Not that you are, but it's okay to whine once in a while. Especially when you've got a sick baby.

Hope she's feeling better soon!

Carrie

Her Bad Mother said...

Whine away, lady. It drowns out *my* whinging.

And, take good care of your M, and of you.

Julie Pippert said...

Babe, that is so not whining. I have TDT and it's rough.

If I was nearby, I'd help. We have backups for backups around here. One time I was too prideful to call on it and suffered once through that, and twice by my backups saying WHY DIDN'T YOU ASK ME!

I have known enough of not having that to be extra grateful for having it.

You hang in there, and hope M gets well soon.

Then do something rejuvenating this weekend.

You know, like have a three day weekend down here at the beach. ;) Yo habla espanol.

flutter said...

No you don't you sound like a mom

kristen said...

no whining, just expressing the frustrations of working and childcare, the juggle is a struggle to be sure. mostly i'm the one to stay home. being self-employed i can usually come up with another plan although i admit that it's hard to not feel resentful at times, always being the one to suck it up.

i hope your girl is feeling better!

Penny said...

just so you know, I am here and reading.. borrowing a pc, just now.. mine is a p.o.s... haven't been able to comment much, but I am here and for what it's worth, belated and all, for this post - it's your blog, you can whine if you want to. love to you. ;)

Danni said...

Of course not whining. Maybe just a feeling of being weary from all the work needed to be done. And with the addition of a sick kid, just another demand which needs attention.

Nancy said...

There must be something going around -- Dani over at Postcards from the Mothership posted almost the exact same kind of thing yesterday (sick kid, heated discussion between parents about who would juggle work). I know we struggle with it too.

Hope M is feeling better soon.