Friday, June 15, 2007

M to the first power

Otherwise known as my .02 about how blogging empowers women. Those Thinky Canadians are at it again with their latest installment of How To Make My Brain Hurt. I think I am getting in just under the wire but seeing as I am already going to Blogher and have purchased a ticket and everything it's just me waxing about.

For me, it's simple. Blogging empowers me (feel free to substitute enthralls, captivates, buoys, or strengthens as an alternative to empower) because it frees me. To you I am not your boss, your solution, your mommy or your partner. I am not the one with the answers and I don't know where you left your car keys. I don't do your laundry or give you a raise. I am not on time or late or right around the corner. I don't care when you go to bed or if you ate some vegetables and I certainly won't ever fire you. I won't evict you or turn you away for shelter. And if you have morning breath or forget my birthday it's perfectly ok.

I am simply me and you are simply you. And I get to talk about things that matter to me that I never get a chance to say when I am busy being all of those other things. And you listen, and you respond, and you fill me up with your love, humor and support. I've said this before but if you all weren't here I am not sure if I'd remain.

So blogging empowers me, but mostly because you are listening. Call it needy, but I prefer to call it divine community.

oh, and hey, pick up your shoes. ha! kidding! see, i don't give two shits if your shoes sit in the middle of the hallway for three days! It's empowering! See! I love this place!

110 comments:

Orangeblossoms said...

I totally think I'm in love with you-- just for this kind of writing, among other things. Of course, falling in love with bloggynes is so complicated and etherial. I rather like it. Thanks for being here.

carrie said...

You mean you don't mind if I forget to unload the dishwasher or put the laundry away?

Oh, how I love thee . . .

Carrie

flutter said...

SO like, it's cool if I leave my towel on the floor?

slouching mom said...

giggling about the shoes.

this was funny AND so true.

a lethal combination.

Christine said...

and divine it is. . .

You better not forget my birthday! (j/k)

metro mama said...

I agree. Thanks for participating!

thailandchani said...

You raise some very good points here. It is good to have a place where there are no defined roles. You create and decide for yourself what your role will be.

BTW, do you happen to know where I might have left my keys? I can't find them anywhere. Forgive me. I'm getting old.

:)


Peace,

~Chani

krista said...

Totally! Divine community indeed.

Julie Pippert said...

You are not my solution...LOL.

This was definitely the most truly funny approach to this question!

Gary said...

But Jen, you are encouraging all of us to neglect our chores!
Kidding. I'm here, listening and enjoying.

Kyla said...

This was so clever and true. It is part of the beauty of the community. We are just ourselves, being who we are. Nothing else matters.

Jenn said...

Divine community is perfect.

Our own little utopian bliss, laundry, dishes, shoes be damned.

So glad I moved to your block.

Z said...

That is true, Jen, and I feel the same way. And did any of us know that would happen, when we started blogging? It's been an unexpected joy.

jen said...

OB - likewise!

Carrie - leave the dishwasher full for a week! I don't care!

Flutter - you can even leave it lying on the bed and leave a big wet spot on it! It's cool!

SM - thank you

Christine - everyday is your birthday around here! enjoy!

Met - love you

Chani - they are your keys, not my problem! woohoo!

Krista, Julie, Gary, Kyla, Jenn, Z, thank you, and yes! go make a mess! freedom! go forth!

QT said...

This made me laugh, but at the same time, I know that through this medium, certain things are possible.

As an example, there is no way that you and I (a figurative you and I) could have had as many in depth discussions in person as we have blogged about, right? Isn't thatt strange?

Tabba said...

Me and my greasy hair, my morning breath, my unshaved legs and pits just love the bejeezus out of YOU.

Hel said...

If I promise that my morning breath is sweet and wholesome will you come and have a beer with me?

Bon said...

divine community, indeed. i too find the freedom not to be anything except what i choose to say out here fabulously freeing, and empowering. it's an aspect of self that i can't imagine anywhere else in my life.

though if you WANT to give me a raise, go ahead. just ignore that pile of laundry waiting for me to put it away, okay?

crazymumma said...

MY OCD is getting all fired up just thinking about those shoes in the middle of the hallway.

and I am not kidding.

I would be terrified to go to Blogher, then everyone would find out what a goof I am in real life.

xo

Lawyer Mama said...

Are you sure you don't know where I left my car keys? Because I can't seem to find them and H&H aren't talking.

Great post!

Oh, The Joys said...

It occurs to me that "divine community" is a marriage of Dante's "Divine Comedy" and King's "Beloved Community" and how great is that?!

Mrs. Chicky said...

You say "needy" like there's something wrong with that. ;)

I'm listening.

mayberry said...

LOVE this way of looking at it. Thanks!

And congrats on winning your recent funding (previous post).

urban-urchin said...

well said my friend.

meno said...

I very much get this. Love with no expectations. It's easy, and we self-select one another.

kristen said...

It's funny isn't it, how you can love someone you've never met in person? But that's how I feel about my blogging friends and maybe it's why I mourn that loss in my real-time life.

Aliki2006 said...

I love this post because it says, so neatly, exactly what blogging means to me, too.

Jenny said...

Isn't it great to feel that way? Makes us feel all loved and stuffs. So happy.

KC said...

xoxoxo

it is amazing, this place. This community. This love.

Her Bad Mother said...

goddammit i lurve you.

MotherBumper said...

Yes, yes! I love this post (and thanks for not firing me for the shoe thing).

ewe are here said...

Divine community.

Love that.

Wacky Mommy said...

How much do I love this post? Thank you. And thank you, commenters, who never frickin' ever ask me where their car keys or glasses are.

Izzy said...

As always, your way with words speaks volumes :)

Susanne said...

"So blogging empowers me, but mostly because you are listening. Call it needy, but I prefer to call it divine community."

And it's not as if you were bad at listening either.

(And please never say that you are not creative. Creativity oozes out of every comment you write, let alone your posts. Dude, you're a writer. Admit it.)

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