Sunday, October 28, 2007

blue

M and I headed over to the hair salon I've been going to for as long as I can remember for her haircut yesterday. My hair person is someone I love, a wise woman who is as liberal and earthy as they come. She sets M up in the chair and very seriously asks her what she'd like to do.

I want blue hair.

We both look at each other. She asks M to repeat it and she says it again. She also points at my hair which currently has red and yellow streaks in it and says like mama.

So my lovely hair friend suggested she cut M's hair first and then afterwards we can see what's what as we both know minds change easily when you are three. So after M sits patiently through her haircut, a small miracle in itself and as my hair person finishes M says again but I still want blue, mama. My costume is blue.

So my friend looks at her intently then over to me and says I think we should honor her request. And in that moment I damn the earthy liberalism and as I am shaking my head no I say it is Halloween and her costume IS blue.

So my hair person goes off and comes back with some product. It's Aveda, she says. It's all natural and it'll wash out after awhile. So we debate and agree to two blue streaks. And as she's applying this natural blue dye made out of natural blue plant and flower juices (is that even possible?) all I can think is what the hell is J going to say about this.

But it's just hair, I decide. So I let it go and M walks out of the salon with two blue streaks and they aren't even that blue, more of an indigo than a royal. And I find myself wishing it was royal, if we are going for it then it should be all the way.

And when we get home there is a package waiting from sweet Liv. Inside we find an adorable halloween outfit for M and an unbelievably gorgeous necklace for me. M put the outfit on immediately and hasn't taken it off since, not even to sleep. The blue isn't noticeable in this picture, but I promise it's there. And Kiki might notice some long lost ponies too.

43 comments:

slouching mom said...

She's breathtaking, indigo, royal, any which way.

And the sweetness of liv!!!

Hetha said...

I love it when you post pics of your gorgeous girl. I'm so glad you went for it with the blue.

Family Adventure said...

That is just the cutest story ever! I love it. And I love that you let her!

- Heidi :)

PunditMom said...

OMG. Pleas don't tell PunditGirl this story. She'd want the blue hair, too, and I'm not sure I'd be as open to it as you were. Would I?

Jennifer said...

Oh, you're a good mama! I think, "It's just hair" in theory...but have not yet been put to the test. ;)

And M is simply adorable.

Karen said...

Yep, you did well - Giving license in a few areas of body stuff is a wise choice so there will be fewer areas to fight about now - and later, when the stakes are much higher - you'll always be glad you let her choose.

Redneck Mommy said...

She's a beaut.

I've a picture for ya.

I'll send it.

Suz said...

She's absolutely adorable! Blue hair and all!

Her Grace said...

She will always remember that you said yes. Good for you, Mama.

(She sure is cute, by the way!)

flutter said...

she steals the breath out of me, every time.

kiki said...

Well, you've definitely got the best hair I've ever seen with amazing color, so it's no surprise that M's hair looks super cute. My sister lets her kids dye their hair and I get all uptight about it, but seriously, why does it matter? I'm glad you let her and I'm glad to see the ponies are well loved. Any desire for some princess dress-up costumes?

cinnamon gurl said...

Gorgeous! My main worry about hairdye in one so young would be the chemicals, so if that was taken care of, rock on! Just the other day I passed a teenager with blue hair and I got all melty, wondering if Swee'pea would want to dye his hair and hoping I would be much more amenable than my mom was.

ms chica said...

Clearly she was influenced by those stylish ponies.

crazymumma said...

ooooh. What is she going to be? A blue pony, a blue fairy? a blue monster? Tell tell tell.

(you can get hair mascara in all colours by the way....)

Julie Pippert said...

I believe in ornamentation of self, especially in youth. I mean, when else??

My children use temporary hair color and tattoos, if they want (and they often do, dramatic little creature that they are). Why not? I make sure they are safe. Aveda is safe.

I let them dress as animals in public, and wear what feels right to them.

To me? It's just fun and respect of their style and preferences.

I say ENJOY! And photograph much! :)

Julie
Using My Words

Ally said...

Brave and wise move, I think. Like you said, it's just hair, and if it brings her joy, then why not?

liv said...

Go, mom!! I love this. And I love that the package came on time to brighten your weekend! xoxo, from the casa de madness

Beck said...

Heh - she's such a cutie. ANd this will the be third Halloween in a row that we've dyed The Girl's hair red so there's NO judgement here, believe me!

KC said...

I so heart M. Joles would want blue if she even thought it was possible. She doesn't know about the caramel highlights I had going on before she came along.

Magpie said...

Totally great. You're a rockin' mama.

mitzh said...

She is really gorgeous!!!

Mad Hatter said...

She's lovely. And she should get together with Mme LeBrune who is currently red in a wondrous little streak.

Janet said...

You know you made an awesome memory right there, don't you?

Good on you, Jen.

Kyla said...

She is such a doll baby, jen. Adorable. And you know, I've always wanted blue hair myself. I envy her follow through. ;)

thordora said...

I keep offering to dye my oldest's hair, and she keeps turning me down! So boring!

Figures though...

Christine said...

i'm so glad you let her have her blue. she's a living dream.

mamatulip said...

I love it. :)

Mrs. Chicken said...

I cannot take it ... the beauty, it takes my breath away! PS - I think you rock for allowing the blue. I bet she was THRILLED.

Momish said...

What a sweetie! Could eat her up, especially with the blueberry hair. You rock, mom!

Tabba said...

Love the picture & so glad you let the girl make such a big decision....you let her trust her gut.

May I ask what her costume is?

Gwen said...

So you really do have yourself an Indigo Child.

And Aveda has to be better than that awful spray we buy at Walgreen's every St. Patrick's to make the girls' hair green.

The hair cut looks fab, too.

Karen Forest said...

I love it!

I am not such a good mom....I am too tied to the whole "what people think" thing that goes with living in a small country town. I HATE THAT about me.

I want my daughter to be free of all that....I don't want her to be like me.

painted maypole said...

where is the picture of you in the necklace? ;)

and indigo blue is my favorite kind of blue. I love that you guys honored her request. that is beyond cool. you definately earn hip mommy awards for that.

urban-urchin said...

How funny-when L was M's age she wanted blue hair too. I have a friend who had blue hair a house full of toys (like giant walking dolls etc), drove a motorcycle and had a shitload of tattoos- L idolized her and would draw 'tattoos' on her arms and legs.

meno said...

You are right, it's just hair. Have fun Miss Blue.

carrie said...

That is awesome that you let her!

Just look at her, with her ponies. I love it!

Susanne said...

How sweet. I remember when I first saw a child with dyed hair and I didn't like it at all. And then I thought, why not? I'd draw the line at something permanent. With my son it would have had to be something like hair mascara anyway because he changes his mind so often. (So far he has been content to have imaginary dye in his hair.)

Oh, The Joys said...

Oh, how we all love when M shows her face. She is an orchid!

Orangeblossoms said...

this child is so beautiful, Jen..... so beautiful.

Amy York said...

I want blue hair too!
Hooray for packages... :)

b*babbler said...

She is so beautiful.

Way to go, though, honouring her request.

dawn224 said...

I love that you let her go ahead and do the blue.

bgirl said...

love it...love that you went blue.