Wednesday, August 13, 2008

this is your anthem

I wonder if you see your every day glory. You give birth, you comfort in sickness, you nurture into health. You stay home all day or you work all day but either way at night you are there. You paint or you read or you sing or you cook or you draw or sometimes a little of each. You teach them how to do the most basic to the often extraordinary and you are always there to cheer them on. You are there for the good stuff and for the not so good stuff too. You make sure they eat well and sleep well and have what they need. You listen to them and encourage them. You are always, always there, patiently creating a space for them to thrive. You might have better days than others but it's the sum rather than the parts that matter in the end.

And then you take the time to chronicle some of it. Sometimes it's the ugly bits and sometimes you brag and you brag because you've earned it and because it let's us celebrate along with you. You are brave enough to put issues into the light and ask for help when you need it. You are honest in self reflection and often more self-deprecating than is fair but we see right through it anyways. You create a history, not only for you but also one day for them. You challenge yourself to do more. You seek balance and sometimes you even find it. Your heart is moved in unspeakable ways every single day and you allow it to happen even if it hurts.

And you get up every single day and try your best to do it all over again. If you think about it, you are amazing, simply just by being you. At your worst, at your self-described worst you are still a bright light in the darkness. You always, always show up. I know this because I read about it every day in all of you. Bits and pieces and everywhere else. This is who you are.

And that makes you pretty damn cool.


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38 comments:

flutter said...

You just made me cry.

slouching mom said...

aw, jen. this is a lovely tribute. to so many parents.

including YOU.

crazymumma said...

darling dude.

I hope you include yourself in this anthem.

Is there a stadium large enough for all of us to sing into each others ears?

Annie said...

"the sum rather than the parts that matter in the end" I need to keep chanting this to myself!

And, you're pretty damn cool yourself :)

Kyla said...

Damn jen. That sure is beautiful.

heels said...

Really gorgeous and touching. I don't know how to say more without trivializing it.

Sober Briquette said...

thanks. some of us really needed that today. like me.

bgirl said...

one
truly
rockin
woman

Janet said...

Ironic that I haven't even opened my reader for days because I'm afraid of the number at the top. Then I take a peek and there is this waiting for me, something I really needed to see today. So, thank you.

painted maypole said...

thanks.

and... right back at you, babe!

;)

Bon said...

that was beautiful, Jen. and like the others have said, it made me think of you.

Omaha Mama said...

Well, aren't you just the sweetest! I find myself saying it a lot, that each day I will try to do better at it all. Some days I manage to, some not so much.
It all applies to you too - so take a little bit of that just for you.

mamatulip said...

I love this.

LOVE.

Christine said...

love you, lady.

Anjali said...

I've no idea who you meant, but the mere thought that it could be me, just really brightened my day.

marymurtz said...

That was beautiful. Just beautiful.
xoxo

Lara said...

And you, Jen: you always show up, when we need it most. Thank you for this.

KC said...

I really needed to read this today too. Today sucked.

alejna said...

Wow, Jen. You are amazing. I think you made each and every one of us feel like you wrote that just for us. You make me feel like I'm doing good. Thank you for that.

And you are so damn cool.

nyjlm said...

sing it loud, sister, sing it loud.

Lisa b said...

well jen coming from you this is one hell of a compliment.
lovely.

QT said...

Hopefully, you included yourself....:)

Jill said...

Thank you for that. We are pretty awesome aren't we!!

Magpie said...

That was awesome.

Like Flutter, I think I'm going to cry.

Mayberry said...

*snif*

Thank you. I needed to read that tonight.

Gwen said...

Now who's going to put that to music so we can all sing it out loud?

You are pure love, jen, you really are.

Pgoodness said...

Wow, we are AWESOME! Thanks for that. Like the others, I felt like you wrote it just for me...

Joker The Lurcher said...

i needed this today. thank you.

carrie said...

Wow.

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hele said...

You rock my world making my toes turn blue from all the dancing.

Jennifer said...

The way you put words together and the things that come right out of your heart, through those words. Amazing, you are. Truly.

Hetha said...

I can't believe the timing on this, I've never needed to read this more than I did today. Thank you!

Amy Y said...

Thank you :)
That makes me want to hum kumbaya (sp?) and hug you!

Maggie, Dammit said...

ohw! ah!

wha -- !

yay!! :) :) :)

just, yay.

thank you.

xo

TheMama said...

Thank you.

This was wonderful, just don't forget to come back and read it yourself - FREQUENTLY.

Midlife Mama said...

Perfectly poetic. I'm going to make sure every mom I know sees it- mostly my own. Thanks ever so much for sharing. it IS sometimes hard during the every day struggle to remember the value of what you do. It's a lovely reminder.

Rachael said...

What a lovely, lovely post.