Sunday, April 29, 2007

the other chromosome

I've never spent much time around little boys; the few friends outside of school that M has are girls. But this weekend I spent some time with The Mayor when I visited Jess and if I am honest, I left with a bit of a crush on him and of course the House of Joy in general. I was amazed at how truly effortless it felt to spend time in a home of a fellow blogger for the first time. K cooks fabulously. And Rooster Girl is delicious. But The Mayor stole my heart. Thanks Jess, for so warmly welcoming me into your home and giving me a slice of Joy.

And then last night we were sitting outside when a neighbor of ours stopped by, a mom with two kids, the boy a year older than M. We don't spend much time together but like each other a lot, so we hung out for an hour or so as the day winded down watching M and A chase each other around. A is a quiet kid, very polite and shy, in fact in all the times I've seen him he's barely uttered two sentences so yesterday was terrific, watching them have fun. But the best part was when they were leaving; all the requisite goodbyes and then as A got on his bike he turned back and yelled See ya, fuckers! Mom was mortified, J and I were quietly hysterical.

It was so ironic, and so perfect. And of course, so true. We couldn't stop laughing about it for at least an hour. It's very good to be home.

Little boys. I had no idea how delicious they are.

45 comments:

kristen said...

OH that made me laugh and laugh....I'm still laughing. I think I'm going to start using that as a way to say goodbye.

Last night we had dinner with friends in the city who are here on a 2 year assignment and they have a 2 year old boy, Etienne (isn't that a fabulous name?) He doesn't speak a word of English but we bonded and I taught him habits (drinking from the water bottle) that his parents visibly cringed at, but were too polite to admonish me. I'm not very boy-ish but I had visions of bum-rushing the door with Etienne clutched under my arm like a football.

Glad you're back home and I loved visualizing you all sitting outside in the evening watching the kiddies play - that's what I love about Spring and Summer. SYF!! (I'm still laughing).

Deezee said...

way too funny! little girls are as alien to me (despite having been one!) as little boys are to you. glad you got a taste of what us moms of boys live daily...not that my son has ever come up with such a tasty farewell!

Hel said...

Welcome home.

What a wonderful afternoon. I laughed out loud at the farewell.

I just spend half an hour watching Fey, Arjun and Shanti race up and down with a fellow wolf bounding along on the other side of the fence. And a little girl wearing a pink jacket running next to him.

The autumn sun was hot and a Indian tree proudly displayed a mass of pink flowers. Lekker. (Afrkiaans for delicious)

Lucia said...

I've been behind on reading blogs, and I see you've been away and back already! Welcome back!

Sober Briquette said...

I am so fortunate to have had a little boy the second time around. He is hilarious and sweet, and has helped me to change my thinking about men in general, as I imagine them all as the little boys they once were.

Gwen said...

I've always only wanted girls, although I like other people's little boys. Boys kinda scare me, since I had sisters only.

But A's farewell is too funny. And, unfortunately, something one of my daughters might be caught saying (time to reinstitute the swear jar?).

meno said...

I grew up with two older brothers. That's why i was glad to have a girl child.

See ya, fuckers - the best goodbye ever.

slouching mom said...

I was so glad to read this, because I think that boys get a bum rap in our culture. I so wanted a little girl before I had kids. But my boys are a joy. Truly. And I no longer am in need of that little girl, except when I pass stores with the most beautiful girls' clothes. Only then. And I am wise enough now to know that a little girl would tolerate my dressing her for a couple of years, tops.

Marymurtz said...

Priceless!

I had brothers and sisters in abundance--brothers were way more fun to hang out with when I was little.

I'm still laughing at "See ya, fuckers!"

Z said...

That is great.

Jen, I haven't read you for a whole fortnight, because I have been away and you are not someone to glance at, you need a good long look and time for appreciation. You've been writing some marvellous posts and I've been glad to read them.

And I missed your birthday! Happy unbirthday, young woman. xx

thailandchani said...

(laughing) That's quite a story!


Peace,

~Ch

Tabba said...

I'm so glad you had a great time at the Casa de Joy.

And let me just tell you. Rav & I keep breaking out in giggles over "See ya, fuckers!"

Love, love, love it!!

mamatulip said...

LOL.

This is the laugh I needed today.

Staci Schoff said...

Oh that is SO funny -- I'm cracking up -- and glad to hear that my kids aren't the only ones who do things like that!

And I'm jealous that you were at the House of Joy!

I have two boys and I must agree that they are delicious.

Blog Antagonist said...

Delicious. Oh yes. I grew up with two sisters. I had no idea what boys are like...and then, I was blessed with two. It has been quite a journey.

I hate that I missed you, but I had a mother promise to keep. Damned inconvenient things those kids are. :?)

KC said...

The other chromosome...I'd make such a mama's boy he'd be laughed off the playground. So delighted about you and Jess. Sounds like a blast. I'm meeting a blogger for the first time ever today...very fun.

Momish said...

Ok, I am glad you added that funny tidbit at the end, because up until that moment I was seething with jealousy over you and Jess hanging out.

But, now I forgive. Couldn't help but chuckle at that one.

Welcome back!

Julie Pippert said...

LOL

That's hilarious!

Glad you had fun with your friend. Glad M had fun with her friend.

FWIW, I'd have been laughing pretty much out loud.

Persistence's best friend---and I mean BFF!!!! Life!! All revolves around this friend!!!!---is a little boy. He's my friend's son, and a few weeks younger than Pers. So they have been around each other their entire lives. This does NOT make for friends as a rule. However, their adoration and love of one another is widely known, and gawked at. It's so stinking adorable. He's definitely a different gender though. Still. What are you going to do but choke up now and again when they sit, side-by-side, on the playground and feed one another cheerios from a shared bag?

Meanwhile, Patience? Yells for cootie shots every five seconds and wonders aloud, frequently, how her sister can stand That Boy.

Shrug

deb said...

That made me laugh out loud. I'll have to remember to use that sometime. It's too good not to use again.

flutter said...

*snort*

I so want to add that to my daily vernacular. You know, like when I am leaving my house "See ya fucker!"

as I walk out of my office, "See ya fuckers!"

How hysterical is that?

crazymumma said...

I know what you mean about boys.

And I would have laughed my booty off.

sometimes I think to myself do I want to try and crank out another kid? Maybe it will be a boy....

then I wake up and just have them over for playdates. they have a totally different energy than girls.

ps. welcome home....

Mayberry said...

Awesome! I can totally see my little guy picking that one up -- superverbal and also devilish, what a combo.

cce said...

Sounds like A's been watching too much television, The Wire or Entourage perhaps? Too funny. I'm sure his Mom just wanted to die after that outburst.

Karly said...

I love it! See ya fuckers! How freakin' funny. And your right...little boys are delish.

carrie said...

Oh yes, the joys of boys.

Welcome to my world. It's lovely.

Carrie

Beck said...

I'd thought that I would never want a son. I grew up with brothers and although they're lovely guys, the idea of raising farting, yelling, smelly boys was seriously lacking in charm. Then I had my own baby boy and fell just overwhelmingly in love with him and his farting, yelling, smelly boy charm.

urban-urchin said...

I know that mother's pain. Too well as you know.

Having said that I too think I will leave work in the evenings with a see ya fuckers instead of goodnight- see you tomorrow. (I actually could which is one of the best things about my job).

Welcome home.

Oh, The Joys said...

The Mayor is missing you, can't stop talking about you. You may have a junior stalker.

Lawyer Mama said...

Oh, now I'm laughing too! That was priceless.

Oh yes, I love my little boys. I can't imagine having a little girl now, although they are just as adorable (and have better clothes)!

Pgoodness said...

Little boys are delicious! They are awesome in so many ways. :) Fabulous way to say goodbye - I'm not sure I would be able to stop laughing if I heard my little ones say it (well, until they said it around my parents...then I'd laugh inside!).

NotSoSage said...

Ooh, that'll be Mme L in a year or two if we don't start smartening up.

Welcome home...I'm glad that you had such a wonderful experience with Jess.

Karen said...

boys rock. sometimes they eat rocks too. also they collect rocks and think that it rocks. I don't always understand 'em but I love em like crazy!

Jocelyn said...

No kidding, about them little boys. I had a girl first and was sure Child #2 should also be a girl; I had seen little boys at the public library, and if they weren't jumping off things, they were hitting them. I lived in fear of toddler boys.

So of course I had a boy. And he is more delicious than I can say--although I do try, from time to time in my blog, to do him justice.

What a fun post.

Suburban Hostage said...

Holy crap, I just peed my pants

karrie said...

I've been pleasantly surprised at times by how much fun it is to have a son. :)

Mad Hatter said...

It sounds as if you had a weekend taming the savage hearts of boys and then having yours tamed in return. I'm so pleased to hear you had a good weekend. I hope the work end of things went well as well but somehow I doubt that picture is as sunny.

Lotta said...

They are indeed. I keep telling my husband to prepare for the day our boy leaves home cause he is gonna have to step it up to fill in the affection gaps.

QT said...

Every one around me has boys, and they love to teach them goodbyes like "Don't let your meat loaf!" or "Keep'er greased!" sooo cute!

Glad you had safe travels and a fun time with Jess. Sounds like it was a ball!

Redneck Mommy said...

I'd have politely drowned him in the toilet bowl once I marched his sorry ass home....talk about parental mortification!!!

But...because it wasn't my child, it's funny as hell!

scribbit said...

Yup, that's boys. My two are driving me crazy right now, it's as if they're locked in constant combat, rolling around knocking over furniture in a battle for supremacy.

Kyla said...

I'd die if my son said somrthing like that...but it is somehow hilarious when someone else's child does it! Haha!

Lil said...

LOL!

Welcome home...sounds like you had a great time with Jess...YAY!

Paige said...

OTJ's little one is easy to adore.

Glad you got to get together with her and am sorry I didn't get to join in on the fun, too.

Susanne said...

Yes, delicious. Thanks for reminding me. I needed that today.

Ann D said...

I love that! (As a mom of three boys who have never learned to self-censor and one daughter who can keep up with her brothers in every department, I can see that picture in my head. VIVIDLY!)