Monday, September 03, 2007

hot and cold

I am restless today. I have thoughts swirling in my head about the debilitating effects of snark, the state of the world, of how much I miss the rain.

I move through without noticing the movement. It's murky and somehow I feel tired. This vague-ary of a post only serves to prove that point.

But tonight I am stepping out a bit, gathering a few neighbors together for the first time for cold beers and remnants of the hot sun. I don't know what I am hoping for but amidst the stilted getting to know you conversations I hope the possibility of more emerges, a shadow trickle shallow pool of what we've managed to build around here.

Because I need this in real life too.

34 comments:

Wayfarer Scientista said...

Oh Jen, I totally relate...I'm working on that here for more then two years now. That need for having a community of people that you can physically touch.

ewe are here said...

Cold beers with new friends.
Sounds lovely. Enjoy!

Kyla said...

We all do. I hope you find it.

Jennifer said...

I have been pondering the same thing about snarkiness lately as well...interesting.

A warm night, cold beer and new friends. Enjoy!

Gorilla Bananas said...

Maybe you're searching for the Kwan, like Rod Tidwell.

ms chica said...

Snarkiness has its place, but only in moderation. In excess it clouds the real issue, communication. Why does communication have to be so damn hard.

Consider yourself a sculptor, they don't always have a vision when they step up to marble, but they bring cold beer, uh, I mean tools, and take a whack at it anyway.

thailandchani said...

Gathering the neighbors... sounds like a good idea. You can steer the conversation to something interesting. :)


Peace,

~Chani

Blog Antagonist said...

I've been pondering for years about why women need to tear each other down. Because at our core we are really strong, resourceful, kind and caring people. Why do we taint that with jealousy and petty meanness??

I hope your cook-out was a rousing success.

Mrs. Chicken said...

Oh, I know this, too. It is hard to make yourself put your arms out in the real world like we do here ... at least, it is for me.

Good luck - I know your sweet soul will attract love like bees to honey.

flutter said...

me too, sister.

jennifer said...

I must admit I had to look up the definition of snark! That's what 15 years overseas will do to you...
I don't do snark. I hate it, too.

Lawyer Mama said...

I hope it went well!

I know what you mean though. I like snark, but hurtful snark...well, I don't know why that's ever necessary. And I so wish I had more of that community of which you speak in real life...

The Chick said...

It's so hard to make new friends and true real relationships. I think I've been burned more in my adulthood than when I was a kid. But we hafta do it, don't we? Do it, Jenn.

Christine said...

cheers my friend.

have a beer (or two) for me.

enjoy your neighbors, build community, and embrace it.

metro mama said...

I hear you. Hope you guys have a great night (and inadvertently stay up until 3)

slouching mom said...

Hope you made some strong connections.

Pgoodness said...

ah, something in the late summer air, I guess. Beer with our neighbors today on the golf course, and then on their deck. Real laughter, real kids playing, no snarkiness. We all need it, hope you found some peace today. :-)

Julie Pippert said...

It was a goofy song and movie from the 80s (but we all loved it, admit it)...still it held some truth: everybody's gotta cut loose, footloose, sometimes.

I don't think I ever understood how important it is to cut slack until recently. I did understand the value of good community.

So glad you cut loose tonight. So glad you are working to build a good community in your neighborhood. Hope it was great. :)

crazymumma said...

The remains of the hot sun. Burning man sending a bit of love everyones way perhaps?

We had a pot luck tonight with our neighbours. Spontaneous delicious.

Our collective brood numbering 5 plus a lap baby were filthy and joyful. And as usual everyone collected in our yard, all the children used our bathroom.

And we went inside as the light dies, knowing sadly that it was the first day of school tomorrow.

These children will grow together. Share, possibly some of their first experiences together.

And we adults will age together. Worry together.

A community. s'nice.

Wish I was there lifting a beer with you.

Mad Hatter said...

May you find it m'dear.

QT said...

Cheers, sister ~ I hope you find some of what you are looking for.

painted maypole said...

I hope your gathering goes well. I, too, have been contemplating hosting a neighborhood get together, for the same reasons.

Deezee said...

brava on the reaching out. I know I could use some face to face community in this overamped up, overscheduled, over-everything world...

mitzh said...

Hoping for a better community and I hope it doesn't stop.

allrileyedup said...

This sentence sums up my thoughts on a daily basis:

"I have thoughts swirling in my head about the debilitating effects of snark, the state of the world, of how much I miss the rain."

Thank you.

bgirl said...

nice..

a woman of action...
love it.

acumamakiki said...

i hope you had some good neighborly fun - i'm glad you were able to identify what you needed. snark is never good, i hope your heart is feeling easier today. xoxo

Jenn said...

The real life community and connections; I hope you found the beginning of the path you need to walk to get you there.

But?

While I was reading this, I was sitting on your porch, cold beer in hand, your head tilted back laughing as the sun went down.

Susanne said...

Yes you do need this in real life too. I think this is one of the reasons we all keep on blogging and reading.

I hope you'll be having a good time.

Janet said...

This blogging deal can be addictive, reading, commenting, and receiving validation of the words and thoughts we all share.

Although many of us would likely be fast friends in real, face-to-face life, geography and practicality precludes that possibility. Sometimes we have to step away from the computer and water our live friendships, too. Preferably with beer.

Hope you had good neighbourly times.

growingupartists said...

I've been questioning the snark-perspective lately too. It's kind of a one-flavor stand up act. I wonder why the women behind the snark are so afraid to find their true voices, as if they don't believe they'll have the same impact using a really collected voice. And the addiction to remain snarky, in order to feed the masses. Can't be healthy.

Congrats on branching out.

liv said...

I sometimes wonder what it's like to wander around in your busy brain. I'm glad you're getting a night out!

Ally said...

Did you say you miss the rain? Any chance you want to move to my 'hood in Seattle? Cuz I could definitely hook you up around here!

luckyzmom said...

From a young age, community came to me. My circumstances changed about five years ago. It IS tough learning new tricks when you're an old dog.