Wednesday, October 25, 2006


Madame Chick has called for a lovefest. And Madame Chick shall get one.

I agree with others - it is so difficult to pick just one. But from the moment I read her post, I knew I would write about i obsess , not because I am not madly in love with several others. (Mad, Momish, Crazymum, Bar Kicky, Doggy, Lucia, Kiki, Meno, Bad, Maiden, Tab, yes, I am talking about you) but because Queen Obsess got me started blogging and she doesn't even know it.

I lurked for months before starting my own blog, fascinated by the whole gig and still unsure if it was for me, and I Obsess was one of the first blogs I stumbled onto. I ate hers up like one would eat wonton soup with a perfect ceramic spoon - until one day I finally thought I could give it a try. And then I stopped lurking and started commenting at spots I liked, but for some reason felt almost intimidated over at I/O.

You know when you are in a new school and that one girl is so pretty, and everyone likes her, and her locker has the best stickers, and her jeans fit just right? And so you'd walk by and hope she'd look at you but was always busy helping a disabled kid up the stairs or running a pep rally so you never got a chance to catch her attention? Yep, that's her. And I was the shy geeky girl who chewed her pigtails.

And then (believe it or not), I calmed down and allowed the superficial admiration to churn into something more real and would find myself time and time again, awed and inspired and moved, as much as before. This woman really cares about life. She feels and breathes and takes things seriously and with ball breaking humor and naked honesty all at once. And she can be conflicted - she might struggle over how much she can give, and how that might let others down, and she does it in such a way that you feel warm inside all the way through. A way that says all will be well, no matter what.

And lastly, she makes you want to be a better writer. To attempt to feel and articulate and embrace the real and the honest and the magical. She's brought whimsy to my sometimes darkened mind, she's inspired me to try and write fiction, and she's shown me countless times that mothering can be looked at from so many different angles, some broken, some shiny and new, but always, always, real.

And when all of that should be entirely enough....then came piratey ballooney embroidered baby shirts.

I heart I Obsess.


KC said...

It's amazing how blogging and bloggers can make us grow into more enlightened and inspired people. The good ones challenge us to be better writers, to be more authentic, to be more giving, to reflect more on who we are and who we want to become.

Mrs. Chicky said...

Perfect choice! And with all the irons she's got in the fire I'm sure she could use this ode to obsession. :)

Thanks for spreading the love.

Anonymous said...

I popped over to I Obsess, and, after just looking at a couple entries, I can see why you like her blog so much. I will be reading a bit more later on tonight when I have a bit more time.

Great recommendation! I'm so glad people do this from time to time; it's always enjoyable to find fun, witty well-written blogs.

Anonymous said...

She is great, I read her too!

Anonymous said...

She IS great, and fabulous in person, I must say. I wish I could write like that, but all the creativity got beat out of me in journalism classes.

Like KC said, I think the blogs we enjoy most are the ones that fill in our gaps, yet manage give us the impression that if we look hard enough, we may see a scrap of ourselves in the mirror.

Viva Deb!

acumamakiki said...

Now I'll go read her and see what she has to say. Fun!

Momish said...

Just a quick note to say hi. I have to go over to I Obsess now. With a recommendation like that, from you... I know I have been totally missing out. (again I am all "where the hell have I been")It's great to find new blogs to obsess over.

Thailand Gal said...

Indeed a good one from "I Obsess". Thanks for the recommendation. :)

This whole blogging thing is odd, isn't it? To this day, I can't say why I started one. I'm not particularly bright, insightful, or profound. Sometimes it's just a matter of remaining open to see what comes of it.


Thailand Gal


ECR said...

I'm glad I'm already familiar with this recommendation, because I don't think my Bloglines can handle another URL :)

Penny said...

You articulate yourself wonderfully.

I am never disappointed by your ability to be succinct and concise and witty and thoughtful and open.

You must be a fantastic advocate for the people you help in your profession, I would imagine.

I, for one, like many, am happy that you began to blog and that I found you.

Deb said...

I heart Obsess too, she is a fellow Deb.
Hey, I have something for you, I need your email address, can't find it anywhere here.
I promise it is a good thing and not stalker ish in any way! ;)

Lucia said...

I'm so glad she got you blogging!

crazymumma said...

ooohhh, I've never gone to I obsess...I shall have to go on over.

penelopeto said...

great choice; i'm a big fan of obsessive blogging as well.
and now that i know that she inspired your start, i love her even more!

here's to all the great ladies of cyberspace.

meno said...

I love the stories about what started people whose blog i read in blogging. I will check her out.

Ruth Dynamite said...

Here here! Great choice! I Obsess is the perfect obsession.

krista said...

I heart i obsess too. i am new to her blog and am still wading in the lurking stage.

Anonymous said...

That description of lildb was just so bang-on - the ball-breaking humour and naked honesty - absolutely perfect. Great choice.